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L’obbedienza non è più una virtù, la scelta e la responsabilità della scelta hanno insidiato da tempo il suo primato. Come dice quel simpatico detto “Le bambine brave vanno in paradiso, quelle cattive dappertutto”. E se essere cattive (o cattivi) significa scegliere piuttosto che obbedire, sembra proprio che la scelta sia la nuova virtù.
Obbedire o non obbedire? La soluzione sta oltre la scelta
“Obbedire o non obbedire?”. Ti è mai capitato di trovarti a riflettere su questo dilemma? Se ci pensi è sempre il solito quesito “Essere te stesso o cedere al compromesso?”. La complicazione sta nel fatto che per essere te stesso ti rendi conto che a volte devi obbedire, altre volte devi evitare di farlo. Per cui la differenza tra essere te stesso e cedere al compromesso in realtà sfuma. Anche quando cedi, infatti, sei te stesso e sei responsabile del tuo cedimento.
Tutto questo tende a confonderti le idee, lo so. Preferiresti identificare una volta per tutte l’obbedire e il disobbedire con il giusto e lo sbagliato. Tuttavia le cose non sono così facili! Come in tutti i dilemmi, infatti, la soluzione non sta nella scelta, ma oltre la scelta stessa.
L’obbedienza non è più una virtù
Avevo più o meno 13 anni quando lessi per la prima volta un libretto dal titolo “L’obbedienza non è più una virtù”. Don Lorenzo Milani lo aveva scritto nel 1965. Si poneva la questione di come trasmettere il concetto di obbedienza alle leggi agli allievi della sua piccola scuola dispersa tra le colline. «Non posso dire ai miei ragazzi che l’unico modo d’amare la legge è d’obbedirla. Posso solo dir loro che essi dovranno tenere in tale onore le leggi degli uomini da osservarle quando sono giuste (cioè quando sono la forza del debole). Quando invece vedranno che non sono giuste (cioè quando sanzionano il sopruso del forte) essi dovranno battersi perché siano cambiate».
Don Lorenzo parlava di “ubbidienza alla legge” dello Stato, ma quando io lessi quel libretto pensai all’obbedienza in generale. A 13 anni il dilemma obbedire o non obbedire era un tema caldo nelle mie viscere. Da allora ogni volta che mi sono trovato davanti ad un bivio, la risposta che mi sono dato è sempre stata la stessa “L’obbedienza non è più una virtù”. Obbedisci o evita di obbedire, in entrambi i casi stai solo compiendo una scelta.
Scelte diverse, storie diverse
Come tutti ho anche io i miei scheletri nell’armadio. Tuttavia, se rovisto bene tra i ricordi, riesco a trovare anche alcune obbedienze evitate di cui vado fiero per le esperienze che mi hanno concesso di fare. Sia chiaro, non critico chi ha obbedito a ciò a cui io ho disobbedito. Voglio solo sottolineare che se vuoi storie diverse, devi fare scelte diverse. E per fare scelte diverse, qualche volta devi evitare di obbedire.
Quelle tre volte che ho evitato di obbedire
La prima mancata obbedienza al “percorso” fu quando, dopo la laurea, decisi di non candidarmi per la scuola di specializzazione. Mentre frequentavo i reparti ospedalieri come studente di medicina mi ero convinto che se volevo aiutare le persone prima e meglio avevo la necessità di sviluppare un pensiero e una pratica medica generalista. Rifiutai la “specializzazione” in favore della “generalizzazione”.
E in un mondo occidentale in cui lo specialista è l’esperto, scegliere di fare il generalista appare decisamente una scelta disobbediente.
La seconda mancata obbedienza al “percorso” fu quando rinunciai a frequentare il corso per medico di medicina generale. Volevo approfondire la medicina cinese. Avevo cominciato per caso a studiare agopuntura, farmacologia e massaggio cinese. Rapidamente avevo colto che si trattava di una pratica medica basata sull’indurre il corpo a reagire e regolarsi da sé, piuttosto che sul bloccarlo e orientarlo in modo forzato.
E in un mondo occidentale in cui il costrutto medico scientifico di base è che il corpo impazzisce, investire sul fatto che il corpo è intelligente è decisamente disobbediente.
La terza mancata obbedienza la misi in atto quando mi stancai di dire a persone che soffrivano di disturbi psicosomatici “Stai tranquillo, non hai nulla!” solo perché gli esami erano negativi. Queste persone soffrivano di ipocondria o altri disturbi somatoformi, non era vero che non avevano nulla.
Di questi disturbi si soffre e si muore come di qualsiasi altro disturbo di salute non curato o curato male. Decisi di iscrivermi alla scuola di specializzazione in psicoterapia. Avevo l’impressione che l’unico modo per andare oltre il dualismo pratico tra mente e corpo fosse quello di essere competente nel trattamento dei problemi dell’una e dell’altro.
E decidere di dedicarsi a comprendere e curare ciò che non si vede e non si misura, ma c’è, è ancora abbastanza disobbediente.
Tradire il vecchio per costruire il nuovo
In realtà se penso al bene più grande che ho sempre perseguito, non mi sembra di avere disobbedito. Ho solo cercato di aiutare le persone che soffrono in modo più rapido ed efficace. Tuttavia, per chi comprende le logiche del settore sanitario, è chiaro quanto le mie mancate obbedienze al percorso formativo previsto abbiano avuto il sapore di veri e propri gesti di tradimento nei confronti di amici e colleghi. E non nascondo che non passano giorni in cui io non senta o legga sui media critiche rispetto a chi si discosta dal percorso formativo previsto. La mancata obbedienza di pensiero è la più temuta.
Tuttavia, sono proprio gli atti di mancata obbedienza quelli grazie ai quali ciascuno di noi può esplorare strade che non esistevano nel percorso previsto dall’obbedienza. Del resto come disse Lord Baden Powel “Se una strada non esiste, la creeremo”. E per creare una strada che non esiste sono necessari atti di mancata obbedienza.
Quello che conta è ispirarsi ad un principio superiore
Tutti accettiamo che un’autoambulanza violi i limiti di velocità per portare una persona in pronto soccorso il prima possibile. Al tempo stesso tutti rifiutiamo che un automobilista faccia lo stesso solo per arrivare puntuale ad un pranzo di famiglia. Nel primo caso la mancata obbedienza al codice della strada in realtà è una forma di obbedienza ad un principio superiore ossia la sopravvivenza di un essere umano. Nel secondo caso invece la disobbedienza sarebbe obbedienza ad un principio inferiore ossia la cura di un interesse personale.
Che cos’è la virtù?
A questo punto ti domando: che cos’è per te la virtù?
…ti auguro di obbedire principio “più” superiore a cui potrai di volta in volta accedere.
Cosa ne pensi?
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